Why are we so damn obsessed with being SKINNY!!!?? Why are women (I know men have judgements to but in this case I am talking bout he women) being judged by their size, hair, skin? Really? Is this what type of society we are raising our kids in??
The first thing I often hear when I start a conversation is a comment about how I look; “You should be way more skinny than that with all you do!!” How many times do my clients tell me someone has said this to them! Or how many times have someone made cruel remarks to me about my body!!
“Wow… your so thin!!”
“Your legs are so big!”
“I thought your tummy would be harder!”
“Lift up your shirt and let me see your abs!”
“You ass and thighs are way to big to be a distance runner.”
WHAT THE HECK!! What is wrong with people?
I think SKINNY is a bad word! I also think FAT is a bad word. No one ever feels good when they are called those things. Everyone is on their own journey and we are all doing the best we can at this particular moment. Instead of tearing people down why not focus on something more positive like how hard that person is working. So much hard work and dedication goes into living a healthy and happy lifestyle that to hear of these people hurting someone who has put in a real effort to make their life better is so upsetting. So sad to see this type of hate when there is so many things that people could be focusing on.
Jealousy is an evil being! I know we all can easily look at someone else and say to ourselves “I would love to look like that” or ” I wish I had her hair”! That’s ok! But to respond in a negative way towards that person is not ok. If you cannot bring yourself to pay someone a compliment please do everyone a favor and keep it to yourself! That person does not want to hear it. They have just spent the last 6 weeks juggling work, kids, errands, family issues and fighting the clock to get where they are and they do not deserve to be tore down! They deserve a whole lot more and it cannot be summed up by the word SKINNY!!
If you do find yourself in a situation where you are being judged or made to feel bad here is a little list to help you come out of that situation the bigger person instead of a victim!
How to deal with Negative People:
Step 1: Ignore- because you are not the issue really! The issue is they feel poorly about themselves and what is missing on the inside! Know that their attacks or bad energy towards you is nothing personal to you, often what they are putting out are expressions of feeling towards themselves.
Step 2: Kill it with Kindness- They may want you to react and they want to see you hurt! But don’t give it to them… instead say “good morning… i hope you have an AWESOME day”! If they try and tear you down in front of people do not acknowledge!
Step 3: Keep your Pokerface in tack- Nothing would give them more satisfaction than to see you hurt! Keep it together… once you get home send me a message and you can rant/vent to me! 😉
Step 4: Stay Strong and Focused- As much as they want you to fail… You focus on how great you are! You are hardworking , kind and you will not stop moving forward! Work Harder… Set More Goals and Stay being you!
My next point is… Why are we letting our value or feelings about ourselves be determined by other people??
Self confidence is key to success in this world! We need to love ourselves no matter how much cellulite we have. No matter how much our boobs sag. No matter how long it takes us to complete the half marathon. We sometimes are our own worse critic and tear ourselves down and feel we need to be SKINNY (yuck … that word). Why? Wouldn’t you want to be happy instead? Wake up and open your closet, put something on and leave the house with a bounce in your step! How many of you pick out an outfit for work and look in the mirror a dozen times? Do you fret over your skin tone?? “What a pimple?” Do you skip breakfast thinking your to FAT (ugh… that word)?
Ladies… STOP!! You are all beautiful in your own unique way! Do not go another day thinking you are not enough… stop searching for more! WE NEED TO LOVE OURSELVES!
So, What does Self Love Mean?? Self love is a practice… Its inner-work and acceptance of who you are. It don’t happen over night for all you over achievers who think it will happen as soon as you think about it! You need to really work on it!
Steps to SELF LOVE:
Step 1: Get Real with who you are – Stop hiding who you are! No one is perfect and that totally fine! Understand who you are is a result of your journey… nothing to be ashamed about!
Step 2: The Past happened for a reason – Yeah.. so you made some not so wise choices!! We all have! You are not defined by the choices you made you are defined by the person you are right now. Understand all that happened was just you trying the best you could at that point in time. Looking back you may not have chose that but beating yourself up is not gonna make it better. Make peace with it and chalk it up as LIFE LESSON #9423 … and start living your best life today!
Step 3: Find things to Love about yourself now- Right now thing about something you love about yourself! Have you thought about it? Write it down! Now start there! Create a list of all the things that are wonderful… Using the “I AM” statements is a powerful exercise to help build self-love! “I AM STRONG” “I AM GOING TO HIKE TO SIGNAL HILL” “I AM SO SMART” “I AM GOING TO ROCK MY PRESENTATION THIS WEEK” – Create a list and read it each day!!!
Step 4: Manage you Inner-Critic- Stop being so cruel to yourself! The things that make you so unique is what makes you so wonderful! So what if you don’t have a thigh gap like the cover model on Cosmo… guess what? Chances are she doesn’t either!! You can’t photoshop reality and you are beautiful – inside and out! Be Kind to YOU!!
Women, we need to stand together to bring each other to higher levels! We are incredible beings with so much love and talent! Together think of the possibilities 🙂
Be sure you pay a compliment today to at least one person! See how great it makes you feel to bring a smile to someone else face! When you are spreading love you will receive love! I promise that if you smiled more and complained less your life will change! Its a powerful practice and it works!
BE GRATEFUL. BE KIND. CHOOSE HAPPY. CHOOSE LOVE.
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